Mary Killen Mary Killen

Your Problems Solved | 7 August 2004

Etiquette advice from The Spectator's Miss Manners

issue 07 August 2004

Dear Mary…

Q. I am 16 and am looking forward to the delights of Daymer Bay in Cornwall, a meeting-ground renowned for its nightly teenage public-school gatherings. I am somewhat nervous as I do not smoke, and most of my friends use cigarettes as tools of entry into a circle of people. How, Mary, can I avoid the terrible prospect of being left standing alone, and thus immediately being classified as a loser?
M.M.H., Wooton Rivers, Wiltshire

A. I am reliably informed that the correct etiquette for those wishing to enter a conversational cluster on Daymer Bay is to simply walk into it saying, ‘Blahblahblah.’ This is an ironic nod to the artificiality of opening gambits, an acknowledgment that everyone on Daymer Bay is in the same boat and all are keen to penetrate the conversational clusters with the minimum pain and embarrassment.

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