Q. What is the etiquette regarding asking to drink the wine you have brought to a dinner party? The man I am dating insisted on having ‘his’ wine when our host came round the table with a newly opened bottle. Being shortsighted, our host opened the wrong second bottle but my date persisted until he got the bottle he had brought. He then drank one glass, leaving our host with nearly three full bottles of red. My date says that, as he is a wine lover, this behaviour was perfectly acceptable.
— B.R., London NW3
A. Your date was wrong. Gifts are gifts and the giver has no reason to have expectation of enjoyment. Good wine is obviously enjoyable, but to bore on about it is missing the point of hospitality. He should have accepted what he was given with good grace.
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