Mary Killen Mary Killen

Your Problems Solved | 2 July 2005

Etiquette advice from The Spectator's Miss Manners

issue 02 July 2005

Dear Mary…

Q. My student stepson from my recent

re-marriage and I are very different people. His mother worries that our relationship will suffer if I am too unkind to the boy, but he drives her crackers too! We have an excellent Italian restaurant locally which does a varied, fixed price, early-evening menu. Every time he joins us there, he asks to have the one dish which attracts a supplement, whatever the choices. I am never sure whether this is an immature belief that most expensive is best, or a challenge of some kind. I am unwilling to fall out with my wife or even the boy irretrievably over £2 or £3, but if there were a way to affect this behaviour without lasting damage, I would appreciate your creative input.
C.W., Glasgow

A. Next time you plan to patronise this restaurant, make a private visit a couple of hours beforehand so as to book a table and collude with the waiter who will serve you.

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