From the magazine Mary Wakefield

Why the ‘family’ is under threat

Mary Wakefield Mary Wakefield
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EXPLORE THE ISSUE 14 December 2024
issue 14 December 2024

Now that John Lewis has produced a Christmas ad that celebrates family, starring white people as humans, all sorts of thinkers and commentators on the right have decided that the progressive madness is nearly over. One after the other they’re popping up in print, like bunnies who’ve decided the fox has gone. ‘Whisper it, but woke is over,’ these pieces begin. Even those Tories who thought it wisest to put their pronouns in their Twitter bios have quietly deleted them.

The soundtrack to the John Lewis ad, the Verve’s dirgey ‘Sonnet’, was recorded in the spring of 1997, just as John Major was vowing to put ‘the family’ at the heart of his campaign, and some Conservatives, I think, just assume that life will somehow naturally revert to the norms of the 1990s – all those children who think they’re cats or are begging to have their genitals removed will fade out like a bad dream.

But it’s the idea of ‘normal’ that’s a hallucination I’m afraid, Tory friends. We have not reached the end of the rainbow yet. How can things return to ‘normal’ when for a generation of young people the whole idea of family has been undermined? Every cult tries to weaken the ties between parents and their children, so as to establish itself as the ultimate authority, and the ‘identity’ cult is no different. Rather than ‘honour your mother and father’ or ‘love your neighbour’, the first commandment is now to ‘love yourself’.

I have an eight-year-old and I can’t tell you how many times a day he is told, sometimes quite aggressively, to love himself – on Netflix, in school, in any after-school class.

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