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Spectator letters: Why we should subsidise weddings

Plus: Leftism is embedded in the establishment; and reasons we listen to Archbishop Welby

issue 22 November 2014

Let’s subsidise weddings

Sir: Fraser Nelson (‘Marrying money’, 15 November) points out that marriages tend to last longer than cohabitations and that this is a good thing. But there is only one obvious difference between being married and merely cohabitating. If you are married you’ve been through a marriage ceremony and if you’re not you haven’t. The marriage ceremony brings the couple together to make vows to each other before God (optionally), the representatives of the state and their gathered families and friends. But crucially at these ceremonies the wedding guests also formally commit to supporting the couple in their marriage. This is a very beautiful thing in itself but its practical consequences are highly beneficial.

A marriage, unlike cohabitation, is rooted in a wider network of social obligations. This is particularly useful when a happy couple becomes an unhappy couple, as it inevitably will at some point. It provides a large fund of social capital on which to draw and a whole range of pooled insurance policies.

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