Joanna Pocock

Finder and keeper: two family memoirs reviewed

Nicole Chung goes in search of her birth parents, while Sam Mills stays home to care for her schizophrenic father

Sam Mills, author of The Fragments of My Father 
issue 04 July 2020

What can we ever know about our family’s past? How do we love those closest to us when doing so brings us to the edge of insanity? Nicole Chung’s All You Can Ever Know and Sam Mills’s The Fragments of My Father explore both of these questions.

Chung’s memoir takes on a sleuth-like quality as she describes the process of uncovering her birth family. Born weeks premature, she was put up for adoption by her Korean-American parents, who feared she wouldn’t survive. Throughout her childhood, the reasons behind her adoption were presented as solid and comforting: ‘The doctors told them you would struggle all your life. Your birth parents were very sad they couldn’t keep you, but they thought adoption was the best thing for you,’ her mother told her. Chung’s response was always: ‘They were right, Mom.’

By the time she was six, Chung could recite the tale of her selfless birth parents by heart.

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