Mary Killen Mary Killen

Dear Mary: Why it’s fine to crash funerals

issue 20 July 2013

Q. Regarding the writing of ‘no presents’ on an invitation (Dear Mary, 6 July), my own experience is that many people ignore ‘no presents’ anyway. Some will not even ask for ideas, and you are likely to be inundated with cushions with ‘Still sexy at 60’ embossed on them and huge mugs yelling ‘Keep calm and carry on’ in bold colours. To pre-empt this, your correspondent’s wife might do better to send a round-robin email to all those invited saying she forgot to write ‘no presents’, but should anyone like to, they could donate to a charity of their choice. I think Ukip might ruffle a few feathers.
— J.F., Balham

A. Such a diktat would be marvellous in its magnanimity.

Q. Your correspondent of 13 July wanted to know how to cull potential numbers at a book launch.

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