Mary Killen Mary Killen

Dear Mary: Was I wrong to tell my friend’s boyfriend he was snoring?

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issue 03 September 2022

Q. I have had an email inviting me to an old girls’ reunion, class of 1976. The organiser suggested we ‘reply all’ so that everyone could see who else was able to attend. Now I have had no fewer than four super-excited emails from other old girls saying they can’t wait till the reunion, so can we meet up separately before that? I can hardly fit in seeing my family and close friends, let alone people I haven’t seen for 45 years, but I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.

– Name and address withheld

A. Email each of the four women saying you too can’t wait to see them ASAP. However, a friend who has also organised an old girls’ reunion says it would be very bad form. She says planning an OGR is just like planning a theatrical production and the whole drama of the group surprise would be undermined if any of the participants had ‘sneak previews’ of each other before the day.

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