Dear Mary: Our holiday hosts swim naked

Q.  We have recently returned from Provence where we stayed the first night with distant relatives. We woke on a perfect morning to sounds of laughter in the pool, so we happily slipped on our swimsuits and went down.  Our host and hostess were in the water but minus swimsuits. My husband, who was clearly taken aback, briefly greeted them, dived in, did a couple of lengths and left. I followed suit, although my inclination was to shed my costume and join our hosts. I think that we were unnecessarily prudish and have told my husband so. He says we invaded their privacy. What should we have done, Mary?
— J.R., Sittingbourne, Kent

A. Your husband’s retention of costume and minimised immersion was not prudish but correct. The essential point of etiquette is that your hosts should have had enough consideration to be clothed on a morning when there was a possibility of guests to whom they given no warning of their preferences joining them at the pool.