Dear Mary: How do we tell our interior designer relative we don’t want her doing up our house?

Q. I’ve just completed a six-month paid internship for a hedge fund manager. I was mostly in his private office helping with personal matters, as well as researching investments. He has written me a glowing reference which should carry a lot of weight, as he is a prominent figure in the financial world. However it has been handwritten and — something I was unaware of — his grammar and spelling are awful. Mary, he is rather scary and I don’t feel I can ask him to edit it, but I worry this invalidates the cachet of being able to present the reference to future employers. What should I do?

— A.C.D., London W11

A. On the contrary, the reference has more cachet with its errors intact. Potential employers will be fascinated to see how illiterate a successful rival can be. They will read the endorsement many more times than once. The sense of superiority it will give them will make them conflate you with pleasure and thereby increase the likelihood of your being hired.