Mary Killen Mary Killen

Dear Mary: How do I tell my friends that napkin rings are the height of naff?

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issue 26 February 2022

Q. Three weeks ago I banged my head on the lower branch of our near neighbours’ tree, which I couldn’t see from under my peaked cap. I delivered a polite and non-threatening letter explaining that I wasn’t badly hurt and that the branch of their tree overhanging the pavement was a danger they should kindly arrange to remove. Although they were in residence, I received no acknowledgement of my letter, but this morning their entire tree came crashing down in the storm. Mary, please advise how I should write to thank them for their courtesy in arranging this divine intervention?

— T.L. (86), London NW11

A. For all sorts of practical reasons it is better to stay on good terms with neighbours. It is the same with in-laws. You must make every effort to rise above their inadequacies, since a harmonious relationship will pay dividends long-term.

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