Mary Killen Mary Killen

Dear Mary: How do I greet friends without hugs or handshakes?

(iStock) 
issue 13 June 2020

Q. Now we are instructed to mingle again, I’m sure I’m not alone in being surprised to find an awkwardness on meeting or departing from friends and relations. The lack of handshake or hug has us all twitching. I struggle to find the right socially distanced replacement; the ‘namaste’ praying hands gesture seems rather mutton dressed as lamb for those of us who are the wrong generation for a gap year experience. Do you think the over-arm bowling gesture might give the right spirit of cheeriness and connection without actual body contact?
— L.O.G., Petersfield, Hampshire

A. Nice idea and thank you for sharing it, but the gesture is somewhat niche and could even cause alarm rather than conveying cheer. However there may be no need for replacement gestures. It is transpiring that sophisticates in general are secretly quite happy about the physical restrictions in place. The currency of the kiss, let alone the hug, had been devalued by the promiscuous round of cheek bashing that had become customary, in some ways compulsory, pre-Covid.

Comments

Join the debate for just $5 for 3 months

Be part of the conversation with other Spectator readers by getting your first three months for $5.

Already a subscriber? Log in