Mary Killen Mary Killen

Dear Mary: How can I stop friends asking to stay in my holiday cottage?

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issue 24 July 2021

Q. My beloved wife has been studying Chinese metaphysics for 18 months. Our house and garden have been badly neglected as a result — as have her husband, and nine-year-old daughter! She claims she needs the mental stimulation, but how can we detach her from her obsession?

—F.O., Dorset

A. You could outwit your wife by developing your own obsession: namely how she can monetise her new interest by giving lessons to acquaintances and neighbours with intellectual pretensions and time on their hands. There are always plenty of empty heads ready to be filled and the study of Chinese metaphysics could easily fit the bill — ‘bill’ being the operative word, since the snob appeal could allow her to charge fancy prices. You could canvass some likely students behind her back and urge her to take them on with such venal enthusiasm that you quite put her off the whole subject.

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