Q. I am becoming increasingly irritated at the thought of the eulogies likely to be delivered at my funeral. I just find the whole idea of people intoning from a pulpit on the subject of me deeply embarrassing and intrusive. Yet my family and friends insist that I must not cheat them of the fervent desire they inexplicably have to ‘pay tribute’ to me. I am not yet ill but at my age – 89 – I feel I am running out of time to deal with this problem. What can I do?
– A.C., London W8
A. Ask your lawyer to sort this out for you. However it’s important that you do not deny people the enjoyment factor of group recollection. The lawyer can also stipulate that although you do not wish to have eulogies delivered in the church, you very much encourage friends and family to share no holds barred memories and anecdotes in the reception after the event.
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