Q. How can I prevent my guests from arguing over politics at the dinner table? I have been working abroad for far too long so have taken a house in London next month to give a few dinners to catch up with friends. To one of these I want to invite two couples in particular. Both are good friends of mine, although they have never met each other. I know they would get on extremely well and probably even work together as they are in the same fields – but they have very different politics and are bound to start discussing these as soon as they walk through the door. Mary, how can I prevent the evening turning toxic before people have had the opportunity to find out what they have in common and exchange their creative ideas?
– J.C., Florence
A. Collaborate with an extremely old man or woman who would be prepared to play ball on this occasion. Greet your friends at the door and hiss the revelation that one of their fellow guests is a total gem, but frail and suffering from a heart condition. This guest will be leaving early so you are begging everyone to stall discussing the political scene until then as any tension could trigger health consequences. Then make sure the oldie stays till the bitter end.
Q. I’ve become so allergic to bores that I now turn down practically all dinner-party invitations. Even if I know four out of the five other guests, I say no for fear of sitting next to the unknown person, who might turn out to be a crasher. I don’t want to become a complete hermit. What should I do?
– M.H., London W14
A. Rethink your attitude. Many seasoned socialisers will head for the most boring person in a room.
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