Mary Killen Mary Killen

Dear Mary: How can I escape the tyranny of teacher presents?

Plus: A chomper at the library, and the civilised way to share a restaurant bill

issue 05 April 2014

Q. It’s only April and yet I am being emailed by parents who have already taken charge and are drumming up support for collective year presents for teachers at my children’s schools. I have one son and two daughters who are all leaving their respective schools and I would prefer to thank staff members on my own terms. Am I being petty?
— H.K., Hampshire

A. Many parents would be relieved that this organisational chore was taken off their hands but others would agree with your instinctive reaction. If you wish to distance yourself from the herd and the modern tyranny of present-giving, say, ‘Oh dear — for the first time ever we have been efficient and really thought ahead about what we want to give. I couldn’t disappoint the children now.’

Q. I am a member of a library in London and some time ago introduced a friend.

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