Mary Killen Mary Killen

Dear Mary: how can I avoid my friend’s awful favourite restaurant?

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issue 19 September 2020

Q. Almost a year ago I attended the funeral of my godfather — a bachelor and distant relation whom I had seen increasingly infrequently. When I offered my condolences to his brother, he mentioned that godchildren had been very well catered for in the will and that as an executor he would be in touch with me in the coming months. I have heard nothing since. I really didn’t expect anything from the will and don’t need the money, but am simply curious about what has happened. Do I somehow raise this with the brother or just let it lie? Mary, I would greatly appreciate your advice on this awkward matter.

— Name and address withheld

A. This particular executor sounds like a decent sort — after all, he mentioned the bequests in the first place. Consequently it would be perfectly reasonable to contact him, emphasising that you are not being pushy, but he did mention it and you just wondered… Godchildren who do suspect incompetence or meanness in an executor, however, might try the following technique.

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