Mary Killen Mary Killen

Dear Mary: How can I avoid a lunge on a date? 

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issue 23 November 2024

Q. I have been working in London as a receptionist in a private members’ club and consequently have had the opportunity to meet and chat to a number of single men – always while sitting safely behind my desk. Now I have left the job, one of these members has started direct messaging me and asking for a date, saying that he would like to get to know me better. I would like to know him better too. I sense there is more to him than the braggart he presents as – but the other girls who worked with me say he always lunges and only wants one thing. How can I see him, but without him pre-empting a proper relationship by lunging at me on the first date? He works during the day so dinner is the only option.

– W.F., London W11

A. You have missed the obvious solution. Forestall premature lunging by inviting your admirer to dinner at your own premises.

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