Dear Mary: As an actor, how do I cope with strangers who think they know me?

Q. I have hired a private room in a restaurant in order to give dinner to a large number of old friends. One of these, with whom I’ve discussed the elaborate seating plan, asked early on if she could sit next to a certain man whom she’s always admired, but doesn’t know well. I said yes. She was thrilled, but now the man in question has begged not to be next to her. What should I do?

— Name and address withheld

A. Spare her feelings by asking the man to come half an hour after the time you have told everyone else to turn up. When your friend queries why her name is not

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next to his on the seating plan, explain that you had to rearrange it as her preferred choice has told you he is going to be very late and you didn’t want her to be next to an empty chair.