Mary Killen Mary Killen

Dear Mary | 6 April 2017

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issue 08 April 2017

A friend of a friend hosted an engagement party in a London hotel. Invitations had gone out six weeks beforehand, and no expense was spared. They had planned it to be an ultra lavish event to please even the most critical and spoiled of their friends. However, between the hours of 4 p.m. and 7 p.m. on the day of the party, 30 of the 100 guests who had accepted suddenly cancelled. The bride and groom are in their fifties, so surely their friends should be old enough to know better? What can an ordinary, non-super-rich person like me expect the turnout to be for my own forthcoming engagement party? I’m planning to hold it next year.
(I’m in my thirties.)
— L.D., Wokingham, Berkshire

A. Since the l950s, there has been an immutable social law that for every 100 people you invite to a party, 30 will not be able to accept.

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