Mary Killen Mary Killen

Dear Mary… | 3 May 2006

Etiquette advice from The Spectator's Miss Manners

issue 06 May 2006

Q. While staying at a house party in Norfolk I lost a much loved and very expensive Georgina von Etzdorf scarf. And I’m afraid that when I couldn’t find it I suspected one of the other guests â” who’d admired it and who was in the bedroom next to mine â” of taking it. My suspicion became a conviction and I accused her, behind her back, to anyone who knew her, of being a thief. Of course, the scarf has now turned up â” discovered by the cleaning lady under my bed. I am now feeling rather ashamed of myself. What should I do to scotch the rumours I have started?
E.B., London W12

A. You have borne false witness against your neighbour. The way to scotch the rumours, as well as to pay appropriate penance, would be to confess to your blabber-mouthing at the same time as you make a sacrifice of the Georgina von Etzdorf scarf.

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