Q. Further to your advice about how to refuse invitations, I had a friend, who sadly died young, who disliked many social events and conventions. At dinner parties he dreaded hearing the words: ‘Shall we move to somewhere more comfortable?’ He devised a universal response to unspecified invitations. It was: ‘I am taking a suitcase to Highgate that night’. He found this would prompt the host to give more details — for example: ‘Oh, what a shame because the So-and-Sos are coming and we thought we’d take a picnic on the heath.’ If he liked the sound of the event he could say: ‘I’ll be back by then.’
— P.M., Lewes, East Sussex
A. Thank you for sharing this genuinely useful tip with readers.
Q. How should one react when someone invites you to an expensive restaurant and then lets you pay the bill? I invited two old friends and a third person, who I didn’t really know, let’s call him John, to a kitchen supper.
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