Mary Killen Mary Killen

Dear Mary | 15 March 2018

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Q. How does one avoid power handshakes? Twenty-five years of wicket-keeping have left me with pathetically fragile knuckles, and each greeting (especially from bold young men keen to show just how ‘firm’ their grip is) brings the risk of crunching fingers and cracking bones. The pain can rule out my other hobby — playing keyboards in a band — for a couple of weeks. But it would seem terribly rude to refuse to shake someone’s hand. What do you suggest?
— C.F., Hinton Ampner, Hants

A. You should sidestep the usual full-hand shake which juxtaposes both ‘handpits’ between thumb and index fingers. Instead deftly grab only the fingertips of the power shaker. You will look inept rather than weedy, but the position means he cannot apply the leverage necessary for crunching. You might otherwise consider adopting the modern practice of power-hugging.

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