Mary Killen Mary Killen

Dear Mary | 10 November 2016

Plus: The question of wealthy but stingy relatives; Christmas drinks parties

issue 12 November 2016

Q. A man I know (but not very well) has invited me and another girl to stay in a villa he’s been loaned. He says the only thing I’ll have to pay for is my flight but I suspect that though we’ll probably have picnics on the beach each day for lunch, we’ll go to expensive restaurants at night and split the bill three ways. I like them both, but they are spoilt while I’m an artist and just can’t spend what they can. It would be so uncool to start saying, ‘But I only had the salad and water and you’ve had the oysters and champagne blah.’ Nor would I want them to subsidise me every night. So I would love to go but how can I get around this bill-splitting problem? Should I pretend to be on a diet and let them go out to dinner on their own each night?
— Name and address withheld

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